My Thoughts on Happiness
Current polls suggest that about 60% of UK population is not really happy, these numbers being similar in other created countries.
Yet, chatting casually with buddies or co-workers they will never reveal this fact for you. Instead, they will happily inform you of their latest acquisitions, how much fun that they had in their latest holiday or what a remarkably talented child they have.
In conversations with buddies people tend to describe how they would like to become perceived, what they would like to have, not really how they really are and what they really think associated with themselves.
We seem to have high expectations of our life. They appear to be determined by where we live, and the standard of living is in that nation.
As in developed countries the standard associated with living is high and there is virtually no limit as to what you can aspire to, there will be absolutely no limit to what people want to achieve in their living.
We are entitled to dream of wellness and reaching a certain status, but when those desires are unrealistic and they are not materialised, that's whenever unhappiness sets into our heart... this really is made much worse by comparing ourselves with the somebody that has more. In affluent countries you will see many of those who live lavish extravagant life and will cause us envy..
Therefore setting up too high goals for ourselves can result in disappointment.
A rather sad figure reveals that the suicide rates are higher in developed nations than in poor countries. This is probably because in underdeveloped countries, the objectives are much more down to earth. People are focused on overcoming daily difficulties, such as finding food or even fresh water, i. e. on success. They don't take life for granted, actually they don't take anything without any consideration.
Just a pair of worn aged shoes can make a barefoot child happy in a bad country, whereas in a developed country you can bath a child with gifts and he may still be disappointed because he didn't get the expensive brand his mates possess. His parents will go to any lengths attempting to satisfy these selfish whims but this will only create their youngster less and less appreciative and less thankful...
Peer pressure, be jealous of, unrealistic demands and expectations are some of the aspects that children in affluent countries grow up along with.
One of the mistakes parents make within the developed world is giving children too much, too early. By giving I mean buying presents.
As there is a very different type of 'giving', more precious, and long-lasting, and that is teaching children how to generate those things instead of just buying presents to them.
Children need to be taught how you can work, to persevere, and acquire skills in order to earn a living. This is how you get points in life and make your dreams become a reality.
Unfortunately children in rich countries develop with this illusion that things just fall through the sky into their arms, and that they have entitlement to them, because everybody has them, and also the state or somebody owes this for them.
Many of these children lack the fundamental motivation to work, because they have never observed real hardship nor gone lacking. They do not possess the skills to make their fantasies become real, the actual tenacity, the doggedness, the endurance. Eventually they become dissatisfied and disappointed with their living.
That magical motivation and the perseverance originates from not having much in early life, from the real need.
In poor countries kids learn to work hard from an early age as function is a necessity and it is not seen as an burden but as a vital action to make sure survival for which they don't expect instant satisfaction.
So if you want your children to be joyful and satisfied in later life, make function a part of their life from their first many years.
Give a man one fish and will eat for a day, teach him in order to fish he will eat for all his days.
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